Last week, I noticed this similar sentiment coming up with a couple of the moms I
support. When I questioned in our 1:1 coaching session how they were doing, the responses I heard sounded like, “I don’t really know… things are ok, I guess. But I’m just feeling kinda of stuck and don’t know what to do about it. But things are overall ok, I suppose.” This is just a paraphrase, but you get the overall vibe… not feeling great but not feeling awful/noticing something feels off/but life is ok and I slept last night/so things are fine! When I coached those clients to explore where that feeling was in their body, both mommas shared how it felt like a deep, deep sensation in their gut. As I helped guide them a bit more in exploring that “stuck feeling,” it became evident that things weren’t as ok as they were trying to make it seem. (If this is resonating with you, momma 💕 continue reading…)
So, after I honored their vulnerability for sharing and guided them through a mindful exploration in session to gain a deeper understanding, the trained observer in me noticed a pattern. And I couldn’t help but acknowledge the pattern, process what it could mean, and decide what, if anything, I should do next. In this case, I felt it could be supportive for the collective to write this blog post.
My hope being that another momma reading this who may be feeling the same way can…
harness some reassurance from the collective that she is not alone, and
feel the emotional burden lighten as she leaves this post with some direction on what she can do when that “stuck feeling,” comes up.
While I know all too well how the full the days can feel when you are caring for young children, allowing yourself a little space to explore this is going to bring more peace and confidence into your experience. Here are four things you can do about that, “stuck feeling”…
Acknowledge Your Feelings Recognize that it's okay to feel a mix of emotions. Uncertainty, frustration, grief, anxiety, extreme love—these feelings are valid and part of the process of becoming a mother. As women in our society, we have this tendency to railroad right over that internal discomfort and even gaslight ourselves into thinking that “it’s fine, everything is fine.” This prolongs the experience of embodying that discomfort which likely does not align with how you want feel in your body long term. Acknowledging what is coming up for you is the number one way to combat that experience and welcome in preferred embodiment.
Lean On Community Reach out to others who understand what you’re going through (explore online resources to develop connections with other moms, find new mom friends in support groups, seek out a specialized professionals who can be that listening ear). Connecting with others who have experienced or are experiencing similar feelings can offer comfort and perspective. It’s so important for you to have that safe space to express your thoughts and feelings so you can show up in your life the way you want to.
Practice Self-Compassion & Prioritize Self-Care Remember that it’s okay not to have everything figured out! 🥰 Give yourself grace and understand that you are doing your best amidst significant changes. And taking time for yourself is crucial. Whether it's a short walk alone so you can take a phone call with a friend, a coffee break so you can journal for 10 minutes, or a engaging in a brief meditation, self-care can recharge your emotional and mental reserves.
Embrace change & Explore your new identity
While the “stuck feeling” can be unsettling, it is a very normal part of becoming a mom. When you view this as an opportunity for self-reflection and growth, you are embracing the journey of matrescence and allowing yourself the grace to navigate the complexities of motherhood. Take time to rediscover your interests and passions. Find activities that bring you joy and allow you to express your creativity and individuality.
Remember, you are not alone in this experience. Mothers everywhere have walked this path, and their stories echo with the same themes of struggle, growth, and transformation. Allow yourself to lean into the support and wisdom of those who have come before, knowing that the stuck feeling is a temporary phase of a lifelong journey.
Looking for some guidance…? Connect with me here for personalized support in your motherhood journey.
In gratitude,
Brittany DeNucci
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